Q: Annie, you’ve
always been rather edgy and experimental,
and on the front lines of the sexual
revolution. What prompted you to write
a mainstream book?
A: In my three decades of exploring
various arenas of sexuality, I’ve
found that people in all walks of life
are befuddled by sex and dissatisfied
with their sex lives. Most people don’t
reach any where near their potential
for sexual enjoyment. Meanwhile, I’ve
discovered that virtually anyone can
create a spectacular sex life, relatively
easily. I care about people, and I
want to see as many people as possible
become more confidant, skilled and
satisfied, which in turn would make
for a much happier world.
Q: What qualifies you as a sex
expert?
A: There are very few women on the planet
that have had the wide scope of sexual
experience that I have. Learning about
love, sex and orgasm has been my passionate
mission in life.
First, I was a sex worker for twenty
years, in which time I had sex with thousands
of people of all types, in a wide variety
of ways. I then did a lot of sex experiments
through performance art, such as an onstage ‘sex
magic masturbation ritual to evoke the
legend of the sacred prostitute.’ I
traveled the world studying ancient sex
techniques and the spiritual side of
sex. I went on to learn the academic
part, and earned a Ph.D. in human sexuality.
I’ve since taught a quadrillion
sex workshops. I’ve been doing
sex life makeovers for singles and couples
the past few years, and that has been
very enlightening.
Throughout, I’ve had magnificent
ups as well as some very challenging
downs. I’m fifty years old now
and my sex life is far better than ever
before, because I’ve learned exactly
how to make it that way—and keep
it that way. I love sharing what I’ve
learned.
Q: Who is Spectacular Sex for?
A: It’s for people in both red
states and blue states! It’s for
absolutely anyone who wants to have a
more spectacular sex life, needs a bit
of inspiration, or wants to learn more
about sex. It’s great for beginners,
intermediates, and the sexually advanced.
It’s for men, women, straight,
gay, bi, trans, vanilla, kinky—even
celibates. Everyone can benefit from
my sex life makeover center.
Q: Who needs a sex life makeover?
A: From what I’ve seen, most folks
could stand to make some improvements.
Some folks need a mini- touch up makeover
and others need an XXX-treme overhaul
makeover. The truth is, our sex lives
are fluid—constantly evolving.
What worked for you before might not
work for you any more. If we don’t
honor these changes, sex becomes stale.
Q: What exactly is ‘spectacular
sex?’
A: The only answer to that question
is, ‘it depends!’ That’s
like asking, What is a spectacular LIFE?
People are all so different, and there
is no single way that works for everyone.
So I help people create a sex life that’s
tailored to their lifestyle and their
desires—to who they are.
In general though, spectacular sex is
sex that goes beyond the physical ins
and outs. It’s awakening your full
erotic power, knowing how to harness
your sexual energy, and feeling good
about your body. It’s deeply nourishing
sex that creates a sense of well-being.
It’s sex that communicates what
you deeply feel and desire. Sometimes
it’s deeply emotional and meditative,
and sometimes it’s over the top
hot and horny.
Q: Why would someone want a
sex life make over?
A: Why wouldn’t they? A sexually
satisfied person is a happy person. People
take pride in having a good, healthy
sex life.
Q: Why do you think people need
a spectacular sex life?
A: Great sex can re-boot a relationship,
it’s a natural anti-depressant,
and it’s good for your health.
It can also be deeply spiritual. Let’s
face it, life is full of stress. Spectacular
sex can really help lubricate you through
life.
What we all ultimately need and want
is to be able to give and receive LOVE,
and spectacular sex can help you to do
that, either alone or with a partner.
What could be more important than that?
Q: How does one go about getting
a “sex life makeover?”
A: I have developed a fourteen-step
program. The first step is to makeover
your mind, since a positive mindset is
of utmost importance. Other steps include
learning to speak ‘sexlish,’ confronting
your inner ‘party poopers’ or
the constraints that are holding you
back, and creating a ‘sexpot profile,’ or
a model for how to be after your makeover.
I also explain how to give your bedroom
a make over—what to do to make
it far more conducive to love making.
One thing I learned as a sex worker is
that you want to create a mood, something
hard to do with pictures of your parents
hanging in your boudoir, bad lighting
and a television on in the background.
And I share some key sexercises, such
as ‘ecstasy breathing’.
There’s also a step that helps
you look and feel sexier.
Q: What is your “Spectacular
Sex massage” about?
A: It’s a very intense kind of
erotic massage that puts you into really
intense erotic vibratory states. I have
taught it to hundreds of very happy campers
over the past fifteen years. It consists
of a series of genital massage strokes
and techniques.
Each partner gets a turn to fully give
and to fully receive. It’s highly
arousing, and a terrific alternative
to other kinds of sex, which can become
too goal-oriented. You do strokes like
Womb Drumming, Twist and Shout, and the
Rosebud Massage. It’s the latest
craze!
Q: You have some innovative
ideas about orgasm.
A: Yes, I’ve done a LOT of personal
research about orgasm. People can easily
learn to have many more types of orgasms.
My definition of orgasm is ‘the
pleasurable release, explosion or streaming
of built up erotic or sexual energy,
and it can occur in many different areas
of the body in many different ways.’ For
example, there are three basic categories;
genital orgasms, energy orgasms and hybrid
orgasms. Within those, there are further
categories, for example, breath orgasms,
megagasms, and dream-gasms. I highly
recommend that people learn more about
the incredible kinds of orgasms we are
capable of.
Q: What is a common blunder
people make in their sex lives?
A: A lot of people criticize their bodies,
their technique, and their partners during
sex. A compassionate attitude and positive
self talk during sex is perhaps the most
important element to spectacular sex.
Also, people forget that there are many
varieties of sex, similar to the varieties
of food. There’s junk sex, health
sex, comfort sex, and gourmet sex—people
should be aware of everything on the
menu and have a well-balanced diet. Balance
spontaneous sex with planned sex. Balance
giving with receiving. Balance intensity
with subtlety. Balance rough with gentle.
Often lovers hang out in the mid ranges
and miss out on the full spectrum. Anyone
can microwave a frozen dinner, but to
be a gourmet cook, or a gourmet lover,
takes learning, experimenting, some time,
and practice.
Q: How do you advise readers
to make sex more spiritual?
A: It’s similar to watching a
sunset. You can either watch a sunset
very casually, or you can ponder its
mystery and marvel at its beauty—which
is the more conscious, present way. Like
watching a sunset, sex will offer you
what you put into it. So be more present
during sex, and give it more conscious
attention. But also surrender fully to
it. There are great techniques you can
learn that help you do this.
Q: I heard you’re doing
some creative things on your book tour?
A: Yes, I’m going to be doing
a series of ‘Sidewalk Sex Clinics’-
giving sex advice on city streets to
whoever wants it-- for FREE! I’ll
be set up at a table with two chairs
on the sidewalk and will invite passersby
to sit down for a free expert consultation.
I’ve learned so much about spectacular
sex and feel duty-bound to pass it along—it’s
my public service.
Also, when I do signings, I don’t
always just sign my name. Sometimes I “autograph” books
with my left breast as a rubber stamp,
leaving an inky ‘tit print’.
It sort of symbolizes the fact that I
wrote this book from my heart—as
well as my brain and my clit. Plus it’s
fun.
Q: What is the best aphrodisiac?
A: Taking your time.